Fred Butler has been writing some good stuff about Christian ‘Survivor Blogs.’ He is not without sympathy for those who have been on the wrong end of overbearing pastors who “lord in over the sheep,” in contravention of 1 Peter 5. I myself have suffered at the hands of proud, control-freaks in ministry (twice), and I have counseled several couples who have been battered and bruised by Christian “leadership.” It happens far too often, and these men will answer for it.
But anyone who has counseled biblically (and there are lots of Christians who don’t), knows the watchword of Biblical Counseling:
The first one to plead his cause seems right, Until his neighbor comes and examines him. – Prov. 18:17
This important truth is the reason why it is unwise to follow survivor blogs. Another reason, as Fred brings out, is that they are frankly mostly void of redeeming and spiritual qualities. Whether we have been hurt or not, we are under obligation to react properly in a Christ-like way.
Here is the post: http://hipandthigh.blogspot.com/2012/06/responding-to-wolf-watchers.html