Apologetics and Your Kids (3) – We Are Losing Our Kids!

Part Two

have begun this series with this three-part introduction, trying to bring attention to the matter of Truth and the authenticity of our allegiance to it as Christian parents.  My concern is that Christians nowadays do not prize Truth for what it is – an attribute of God – but rather treat it as something they can use a bit of when they think it needful.   Francis Schaeffer used to say that the Church should live out what he termed “true truth” before the world.  But the Church has forgotten the importance of Truth, and its role as the witness to the Truth in this dark and deceitful age.  Truth must come first.  Our preferences are not that important.

I realize that in putting matters this way I am not going to make many friends.  But I am not concerned with making friends so much as with telling it as it is.  And the fact is young people raised in Christian homes and attending evangelical churches are leaving those churches in droves.

According to a Barna poll 66% of these kids are deserting their Christian upbringing.  And the figure may be even higher.  A survey conducted by the SBC asserts that 88% of young people walk away from the faith never to return.  And there is no sign of any abatement.  Something is badly amiss, and Christian parents especially need to stop pretending everything’s okay so long as their kid or teenager has a good time at church.

Loyalty and Credibility

In surveys which have been done of young people who have ‘left the Faith’  the issue of deep commitment to what we Christians claim to believe crops up continually.  Young people can sense when we are believing Christianity for its usefulness or pragmatic value, and when we are believing it because we know it is true and our allegiance is to it asTruth.  The former carries no assurance because Truth is being used as a prop for our life-choices.  The second is in rather short supply in our evangelical churches.  There is a lack of integrity and sincerity about the Church today.  Sincerity is the great by-product of holding loyally to the objective Truth of God’s Word.  The term Paul used when describing the “Belt of Truth” in the Christian Armor (Eph. 6:14) demands such loyalty.  You can’t put on this “belt” if you don’t prize Truth.  You don’t prize Truth if you don’t submit to it and internalize it.

The Truth ought to have the sort of authority over us that old-fashioned Headmasters had over school children.  But too often Truth is treated like modern Headmasters are.  They have a position of authority, but there is very little they can do with it, and the kids who pay lip-service to them know this.  Insincere people tend to let the side down and don’t much care if they do.  Sincere people who have placed themselves in subordination to the Truth, whatever the cost, have the kind of integrity which our young people are looking for.

What it Takes

My big concern in this series is how to use apologetics in evangelizing and building up our children, whether they are aged eight or eighteen.  But I felt I needed to stress this issue of authenticity; the difference between using something true and committing to it because it’s true.  To do this we need to ask ourselves some hard questions about our churches.  Does our local church emphasize Bible doctrine, or is doctrine and theology never really discussed?  Does the leadership have an unequivocal stance on the six days of creation and Noah’s flood?  When was the last time the ugliness of Sin was spelled out in a sermon?  We must ask ourselves, Did we choose our fellowship primarily because of its commitment to the Truth, or did we choose it for the music or the programs?

1 Peter 3:15 tells us to,

…sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.

Here is the classic verse for Christian Apologetics.  We are to be “always ready” to defend the Christian Faith.  We are always to be able to “give a reason for our hope.”  But please do not overlook how the verse starts: “sanctify [that is, set apart] the Lord God in your hearts.”  To set God apart in our hearts demands of us that we allow His Truth to have full authority over us.  In Christian venues where Truth is not seen as primary, we must respectfully depart and seek out those that do.  No one leaves the Faith over the music.  They do and are leaving over the matter of Truth.  Let us defend the Truth, but let us be real!

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10 comments

  1. One of the interesting things about your series is that Schaeffer was trying to do the same thing you are in his book The Church At The End Of The Twentieth Century, especially chapters 7 and 8. He was getting a large number of people coming to Labri that were disenchanted Christian kids like you describe. In that book, and others such as “Two Contents, Two Realities” and “The New Super Spirituality”, Schaeffer is trying to explain to evangelicals that they not only need to reach the non-Christians but also their own kids that see “unreality”, in the home. They see Christianity as an adults seem to be playing as a game or social convention. In Two Contents Two Realities, the first Content is sound doctrine, founded on absolutes and carried out in ‘the practice of truth’. The second Content is facing “honest answers to honest questions”. The first Reality is True Spirituality, the second Reality is The Beauty of Human Relationships.

    Sorry, didn’t mean to ramble on, I’ll leave it at that. Just wanted to say “cool! You are saying the same thing Schaeffer did a generation ago” which is a compliment

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  2. Brother Paul, your warning about losing our kids is a vital statement that all Christian congregations need to heed. In this era of “seeker sensitive” and “consumer driven” churches, truth has become an individualistic interpretation by those who seek comfort over commitment. Our youth have been removed from worship services prior to the sermon to receive entertainment in the form of child care while parents can sit without any distractions from their children. During the time the children are being cared for they receive little or no instruction in the meat of the Word of God and have no foundation in Christ to combat the destructive and anti-Christian teaching they receive in the public school system. With no armour of God (Ephesians 6:10-17) to protect them, they become lost in the humanism of modern culture. I look forward to your continuation in this series. Please keep telling it like it really is!

    1. I think you hit the nail on the head Ray. It seems like many who survey churches looking for where they want to settle down are basing their decision on what their kids might like more than biblical criteria. One of my big concerns is the “church within the church” where young folk are assumed to need a customized program which differs from the main congregation. This insular approach is dangerous–and the kids are often getting a much different exposure to doctrine and truth than the main pastoral staff is representing from the pulpit. Personally, I’m all for the model which has the youth in the main service as soon as is practical and minimizing the separation between the main congregation and so-called “youth ministries.”

      1. Yes Tony,

        This church within a church is both fractious and, ironically, diametrically opposite to the biblical worldview regarding family and relationships.

        Keep up the good work in WA. brother.

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